Friday, December 28, 2012

Awesome lesbian spanking

I have no idea what studio produced this.  Never seen it before on any spanking blogs.  It's called "Gala Hurt that Ass" on xhamster.  It's 20 minutes long, and is well past an R rating.  A real spanking, and really sexy.  These seem like real lesbians, not spanking models playing the part, and it's pretty damn hot. Don't know that I've ever seen a more sensual spanking, and not to worry, it's not all sensuality... there's plenty of firm spanking as well.  Fast forward to about the 16 minute mark if you don't believe me. or fast forward to about the 19 minute mark when the spankee has an orgasm.

for those of you with trouble playing embedded videos... try this link (hard core ads warning.)

Thursday, December 27, 2012

shots?

"Drop your drawers and bend over.  And I'll warn you, this one's going to hurt a bit."

Those words might sound fun to most spankos, right? But those words are certainly NOT fun when said in the context of an exam room by a nurse (even an attractive one) holding a big shot.  I experienced this here recently.  I had to get my first shot in my backside since I was a little kid.  

Interestingly, it wasn't really in my butt, instead she had me lay down on my side and gave it to me in my hip. I was curious, and found this webpage that explains why they give shots like that now.  I'll admit it- the nurse was very attractive, and when she said, "no I need the boxers down a little more so I can see." and then sort of leaned over me to put her hand on my bare hip... despite not feeling well to begin with, I felt a little tingle of excitement.  Unfortunately it was quickly replaced by pain that wasn't pleasurable at all, and walking around all day feeling like I had a golf ball implanted in my ass.

But in looking up the antibiotic I got on the internet that night, my mind drifted and my browser followed.  I turns out some people are really into shots as a fetish.  There are even movies for sale specializing in this sexual fantasy.  And it turns out there appears to be some crossover.  Surely most spanking video enthusiasts are familiar with Bad Tushy and might know about the related site Doctor Tushy which features exams and rectal thermometers and sometimes even fake injections.  But there are some studios that apparently specialize in this stuff.  Most interestingly, I found a movie called Shots 4 available here.  I didn't find Shots 1, 2, or 3 but didn't look all that hard.  I also noticed that one of the models in that video looked awfully familiar.  

Why, that's Lila from Realspankings!
While I won't be incorporating shots into my spanking fantasies or play anytime soon, I do think it's sort of fascinating that the two fetishes have a little bit in common- vulnerability in the face of an authority figure, fear, exposing your bottom, pain in the bottom, etc... and I'm curious whether there are spankos out there that find shots intriguing, or even hot. 

Tuesday, December 25, 2012

A sigh of relief...

It's been awhile since I paid much attention to my blog.  It's been an awfully busy fall and then Christmas season.  I haven't even talked about Christmas on here once this year.  Merry Christmas y'all.  I did think about how we send out and receive tons of Christmas cards every year, and most of those we exchange them with I haven't seen or thought about in the year since I saw their last Christmas card.  Yet for obvious reasons, I can't send them out to all my kinky friends that I DO think about far more often.

I haven't written anything about politics since the election, or the terrible events in Newton, CT, or the fiscal cliff, or much of anything of substance.  Sometimes I use this blog as an outlet for my creativity that's normally stifled, or venting about something.  Lately I just haven't had time to even do that.

This is my absolute favorite time of the year though.  Right now.  Late last night when all the presents were put together under the tree, the house was quiet, and the Christmas preparation was essentially over, I made myself a drink and just sat on the couch and relaxed.  Ahhhh....

The world didn't end.  We made it through a stressful but productive several months.  No more toys to buy or stressing about the house or my extended family.  Today was a once in a lifetime so far white Christmas.  It probably means the commute tomorrow will be a bitch, but that's okay.  Not much going on this week.  Relaxing at home watching bowl games.  And I always look forward to January, the most boring normal month of the year.

The world's full of problems.  But try to take a moment to relax and soak it in and count your blessings.  Merry Christmas/Happy Hanukkah etc...

Thursday, December 20, 2012

Oh, there is my hairbrush...

Okay, so this might be a little mirror instead of a silver-plated hairbrush, but I stumbled across that pic above and thought it was beautiful.  Silver hairbrushes do exist.  I bet they'd hurt like crazy used as a spanking implement.  Probably a good general rule to stay away from metal implements.  Anyone have one of these, much less experienced it as an implement?


Tuesday, December 18, 2012

spanking and religion mix, part 2

So a couple of instances of spanking and religion mixing that I missed in my first post about it...

American Horror Story is a television show that apparently has generated a great deal of buzz this year.  It features a nun who canes people in an insane asylum.  I've seen some clips of the caning scenes, and there's nothing sexy about them to me.
But I'd be really remiss in not mentioning a song that pops into my head far too frequently when I'm engaged in spanking play.  The Veggie Tales are a cartoon series for little kids that's supposed to be Christian based. There are some Bible stories, but mostly there are lessons like "Be Nice to People" and "Share Your Things" - not that these cartoon lessons sink in especially well with toddlers.  But we had one DVD that our kids used to watch over and over.  It contained the song on the video below.  What does it have to do with spanking? Well, just watch the video and I hope that this powerful ear worm invades your skull like it has mine at certain times in a spanking scene.

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Interview with Betty Blaze of Realspankings


I feel like I grew up on realspankings.com  I can remember back in college when they were one of the first sites around offering premium content, and I maintained a membership with them even though I didn't have internet access.  (The roommate in my house did, and I'd download the videos to a floppy disk, cover my tracks, and load them onto my computer. Remember when spanking videos were so small they'd load onto a diskette?)  I'm pleased to have the chance to interview Betty Blaze, who apart from their owner, Michael Masterson, is, I believe, the only full time employee of what has become one of the largest providers of spanking content on the internet.
 
 
How's it going Betty?

BUSY! We've been shooting lots of content, acquired some lovely new models and have been working on some new ideas for videos and DVDs. Things are great here in Colorado! 

I've given a little bit of my history with the realspankings network of sites... I'm curious... tell me about your first interaction with them and your feelings involved with your first spanking shoot.  Was that your first spanking shoot?  Did you have much/any experience in spanking before you began working with realspankings?


Not at all!!! None, zero!   Yes, that was my first spanking shoot, EVER! I had been interested in it for a long time as I got more into the world of "fetishes". It was something I felt was more attainable than some of the other things out in the world. And when I  found the add in the local city paper, I was very excited and nervous all at the same time. Like, they do this in my town?!? When I first chatted with Lady D about what the job entailed, I thought, oh I can do this. When I went to my first shoot everyone was so nice and professional. I was a bit nervous of course about being naked and vulnerable in front of the camera, but with how comforting everyone was, I quickly relaxed and got right into it. I found that over time the more I got to know the people I worked with, the more open and willing to trust what they wanted to do. I have learned so much over all these years of being in this industry. I have learned alot about myself, my limits, where I am willing to take a scene, and how much I will give. It's pretty trippy on occasion to think how long I've been doing this! 
You're pretty much running the show on women spanking men, right? Hows that going?  Tell me about the differences in spanking men vs. women, and the differences in the audience. 
Yes I am, and its very different than it used to be. We could get male models in all the time who had no problem shooting with us without pay, they just wanted to work with us! These days it's a different story. I have no problem paying men to work with us, but there seems to be a lack of variety, and people are more unwilling to reveal their identities on camera. Which I also respect and understand. SO I work with  the men I can get in. I really enjoy the group I have right now. I know they have learned to trust me and seem rather excited to come in and work with myself or any of the other lovely ladies that come in to spank. 
I think some of the differences of spanking men, is, they tend to try their hardest to tough it out, not make much noise, grit their teeth and bare it. Sort of more of a challenge. Where I see that some of the ladies I work with are willing to open up, and express more emotion and give into it a bit more. I also feel as though some of the men that I spank, who are a bit younger and inexperienced, are just excited to be doing this sort of work at all. I can introduce them to scenarios and situations they may never have thought of (same goes for the ladies). I will tell you that I only have one gentleman who has really expressed any desires, scenarios,  implements that he's wanted to do/use in his scenes. Lots of the men I have worked don't seem to have any ideas, or aren't willing to tell me what they want. Not that they will always get what they want, but of course if it's along the lines of what is acceptable, I will of course oblige. Now the ladies on the other hand always have ideas, or are picking implements and really like to put their two cents in. Which I love! I enjoy spanking both men and women very much. 
As far as the audience goes, I believe for women spanking men, the viewers want to see the woman spanking the man. They don't always want a face and butt shot of the man, they would rather have focus on the spanker. And for the other sites that feature the ladies I believe its the opposite. I try to mix it up as much as possible, so that everyone can get what they want. But it's a never ending challenge to please the masses. I try! 
That's fascinating.  I would have thought that the men have more suggestions.  Maybe the audiences are more interested in the girls/ladies whether they're spanking or being spanked because, well... they're better looking.  Just a thought. Here's your chance for a plug- tell us about something upcoming on that site, and anything new and exciting on any of the other sites...

We are in the process of making our websites fully mobile! So now you can take our content anywhere you go!
We are also working on some new ideas for some compilation DVDs, and a possible full length Sorority movie. And as always we are working on bringing it fabulous new models!! 

That sounds awesome- I may have to renew my membership if I can watch those movies in the drive-thru line on my phone! Actually, in all seriousness, I've been known to ahem, partake in spanking activities at lunch time.  You've been at this awhile- what's the biggest change in the industry in that time period? 

I think since it (spanking) has become more accepted and is more main stream, you're seeing it in movies and on TV shows and social networks online- that more people are embracing their kinks and want to express themselves. I receive loads of emails daily of people from around the world wanting to work with us. Who have followed our sites, are into it, want to be the next spanking star, or just to see what its like.
I think people are much more open about it now then they used to be. I see that as a big change. Its not as scary or underground. And I also believe that people that are producing content are also more professional then maybe in the past, they pay well and and I see such awesome creativity out there!!! I'm always scoping out what other people are doing. I think people are pushing the envelope and when you have stellar models who really enjoy their work, (which it seems like there are more and more of) the possibilities are endless. 
But that being said,  I also do feel that there's a bit of over-saturation with spanking. Seems like everyone thinks they can do it and have a website and charge people for their, well, not so fantastic content. Just because you love spanking doesn't mean you [should] be a spanking website content producer.
I'll ask you one of the same questions I asked Dallas- on a scale of a-minor-nuisance to we-may-as-well-pack-it-in-we-can't-win... how serious an issue do you think piracy and file sharing are to spanking content providers?

This is HUGE!!! It's destroying the industry. All adult companies are being affected. This is not something that should be tolerated. Buy Memberships and support the people in the industry- stop being a slob and stealing and pirating content!!!!!!
We all work HARD to put this out there for people to enjoy. You pay for other things you like? Right? You buy products, and pay for downloads of music, books, etc. Why cant you pay for our products?
It's a real shame.

Once upon a time I thought I was going to be in Denver area for awhile and might be able to shoot with y'all.  Tell me- how much of your day is spent "model wrangling" and where do y'all find them?

Like I mentioned earlier, I get loads of emails from people who have seen our add online, to fetlife, to our spanking modeling website that want to work for us. So I spend quite a bit of time everyday responding to these. Of course we mainly hire models who are local, but have worked with some fantastic men and women from out of state who really want to fly in and work with us.
We also have a referral program here, so if a model referrers a friend they are paid a little extra bonus if that person works with us. We have gotten some great models with this incentive and it always makes for a super fun shooting day when the ladies know each other and are comfortable working together. The majority of the time the models find us, we aren't out scouting for them. I would say 80% of our models are from online responses to our ads. And I would also like to stress that 90% of our models are the true girls next door who reply to these adds. They have never done this kind of work before and it is TRULY their first time on camera. I spend a TON of time getting to know these girls so that they are comfortable, and trust us to make this experience a good one. We have never had a model NOT want to come back and work with us.

One concern I had was that someone from my real life would recognize me.  Has that ever happened to you? To any of your models?

I have had it happen to me before yes, but the person was not disrespectful and did not yell out "BETTY!" when they saw me. I actually received a message on our World Spanking Forum, that said they had seen me out and about, but to respect my "normal, vanilla life" they would never have approached me. And I was a little shocked, but appreciated it. I would never run up to someone in the industry on their off time and make a stink about recognizing someone. I just think its a little tacky. Or if your going to do it, be tactful. I only have heard of one instance of a model being recognized, but I never got many details, except that they were noticed at a local fetish club. 
I feel as though you need to do some serious thinking before you put yourself out there on camera. Its not for everyone. And its easy to get your desires met while not being on camera. But if you sign up to work with a company that is online content, you really cant ask people to hide your face or your identity. Especially when facial reactions are a huge part of the job. Its a decision each individual makes on their own. And if you are to deal with the consequences of getting recognized, or dealing with repercussions of it, well, be ready to explain yourself or move along knowing you made the conscious decision to do this. 

If someone reading this were interested in becoming a spanking model, what advice would you give them about getting started?

  • Wait until your 18!!!!
  • Do your research. Look into sites and watch content that appeals to you and the kind of model you would like to be, and how you want to be represented. 
  • Make sure you are ready to have your face on camera! 
  • Make sure you ask lots of questions when talking about shooting with a company. Where are they located? Who will be there? Can I bring someone? Who will be present at the shoot? How long will it take? What will I be compensated?
  • Make sure you are open and you communicate with people you are working with- what is my safe word? I like this, I don't like this. 
  • Don't be too forward to do "whatever" people usually have a formula to make your shoots the most effective and get the best out of you and well, your butt. Go with the flow and the program, don't jump too soon and regret your decisions on taking the fast track. 
  • Ask questions to other models- there are so many blogs, forums, social networking sites out there. Plenty of people to talk to or read about their experiences. I would highly suggest that.
  • I could go on and on, but be safe and smart. Do your research and you can find what your looking for.
Bet there's a funny story behind that first point, but I know better than to ask!

It seems to me like you've developed some chemistry with "Danny" - how do y'all decide who shoots with whom as you're scheduling?


That mainly comes down to people's availability. We shoot Monday-Thursday, two shoots a day. So I try to evenly schedule our spankers in conjunction with models and their schedules. Some people have preferences as to who they work with, but most of the ladies are willing to work with anyone. I am always the person working with models on their first day/shoot. I am also always present for each shoot.  It basically comes down to, what do we need to shoot this month? how many scenes? Then we book the models and spankers in conjunction. And what models are the most popular right now occasionally comes into play, but we try to give everyone equal work every month.

Can you describe the difference you see and the appeal of appearing as both a top and a bottom?  Is there one role in which you feel you're more of a natural fit? --I think there's something extra appealing about seeing a powerful woman get spanked as opposed to a student. Just sayin'

I enjoy both roles SO MUCH! This is a tough one! As I am more drawn to Topping these days, every now and again I just need to submit to a good punishment!! The thing I enjoy about being able to play both roles is, I like the idea of a strong, commanding woman that is one minute spanking, and then the other being punished. (sort of like what you said above) I love the idea that someone can dish it out and then also take it. I find that to be sexy. I feel so in control when I am Topping. I feel like am really great at reading peoples body language. I know how far I can take them, or push them. I enjoy that aspect very much of being a top. I feel as though the models I work with men and women, trust me. They know they are in good hands and will get what the deserve, and sometimes what they want. =)

As a bottom honestly, I feel like I can release my stress! Its a HUGE emotional release for me when I am on the bottom. I can just let go and float off into lala land. I can also add in my bratty attitude, that yes, I really do play out in "real life", so that's not often a far cry. Especially the eye rolling. 

I also feel much more mature than when I started. I didn't really "get it" right away. I didn't know if I would like it as much as I do. Or if I would ever want to spank someone. But I quickly found my way, and my calling. Its hard for me to pick which side I prefer to be on. I have fans who like me only as a top, and others who only like me as a bottom. My love for either is always evolving and changing. I don't feel like I currently have any one to spank me on camera that QUITE gets into my head the way I may like, or we just haven't gone there yet. But I think that could happen sometime. I feel like I still have a lot to learn on either side of the spectrum. I'm excited to see where it takes me on and off camera.

I really just am a happy switch. Its hard for me to choose sides. =) 
Is she getting ready to spank, or be spanked?
How does working at a spanking company affect your interest in spanking in your private life? does it enhance your interest or lose its appeal because it's well, a job. 

I don't get spanked very much in my private life honestly. When I do its strictly during sexual situations- bondage, spanking, etc. But I am not disciplined in real life. I enjoy it when the time is right, and enjoy doing work for the camera. Both are very separate and different for me. 
On camera there's always a story- an infraction. So there's acting involved, and then when it comes to the actual spanking, of course my reactions are real, but to me most of the time its not a turn on. And when I'm alone with the person I love- its just way more intense. Because there's so much trust there, I can fully let go and submerge myself into it all. I'm not sure I would really ever feel comfortable in a sexual situation on camera that I was that out there and personal. Some things I feel, need to be left to the imagination, and kept for you and you alone. 
I love being on camera getting spanked, I love being Betty Blaze! I adore my job on both ends =) I love pleasing my fans. I just like to have some secrets too! 

I've learned that you're into burlesque as well as spanking videos.  Can you talk about that interaction?  Any crossover fans? Is there a place for your fans to see you do burlesque?

I don't really cross those things over. I talk about it from time to time, and some of my close friends and fans have seen me perform. But I don't advertise my Burlesque character in my spanking life. I know I have talked about it as a passion- but I don't just give those details out to just anyone! Sorry! If you're lucky enough to catch me somewhere out there- then YAY! 
Uhmm... wow!
Thanks again Betty. You know I'm a fan, and it's been a pleasure interviewing you. 

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Wednesday, December 5, 2012

spanking and religion- they mix?

Let's see... I've talked plenty about sex and politics, why not offend everyone and bring up religion too?!  Yes, spanking and religion do mix. They mix quite a bit.  In fact, this subject could provide ample fodder for a number of posts.  Heck, I suspect it could provide ample fodder for a doctoral thesis if one really delved into it.

There are of course, people (lots and lots of people) that are into Christian Domestic Discipline. As I understand it, it's similar to "regular" Domestic Discipline but buttressed by a belief in Christ as eternal savior and several verses from the Bible that they say support the notion of the husband as head of the household with the authority (and duty) to spank his wife when she sins. Obviously, they take their mix of spanking and religion very seriously.  I'm certainly not judging them, and would love to hear from some of them if I've mis-characterized that movement.  (Just please don't judge me!)

However, I'm not really focused on that group of folks, which I think is a small minority of the number of people that are into spanking.  Instead, I'd like to discuss those that add the element of religion as an extra spice to spanking.
from Shadow Lane's Spanking Confessional
from Sara Gregory Spanking
I attended the Texas All-State Spanking Party last year.  The lowlight, for me at least, of the one day I attended was the schoolgirl spanking party where the attendees sat as the audience while professional (and a few well known local) tops dressed up as priests and spanked all the bottoms, who were dressed as schoolgirls.  Whatever the outfits, the format was not my favorite.  Still, the fact that the tops were dressed as priests, some with rosaries and wooden crosses around their necks, added (subtracted?) further to my unease and displeasure.  I'm not Catholic, and wasn't necessarily offended, so much as I thought that any reference to priests in a slightly sexual scene was sort of creepy. 

That party wasn't an isolated incident by any means.  See the shot above from a Shadow Lane movie.  I haven't seen it, but if it's like other films by that studio I'm sure it was good quality and had a relatively well-developed and acted plot for a spanking movie.  I also recall several movies over the years with nuns being spanked from various studios, and the other shot above where Sarah Gregory is dressed as a nun providing discipline.  But that party scene stands out to me because it made me wonder "Why?"  I mean there are a lot of Catholic schools- I get that.  But when I think of priests spanking it adds an "Ewww..." factor that I'm not sure I can explain.  
I'll try to explain it though: spanking is fairly sexual for me, and when I think of priests engaging in taboo sexual activities, my first thought is little boys, not spanking schoolgirls.  When I think of someone that spanks naughty schoolgirls, I think of someone that looks like this:
I know, I know... maybe not exactly a sexy image for ladies that are into spankings.  Fine.  How about a different professor?
He knows how to use a whip, too.
All that having been said, I think there is a time and a place to mix spanking and religion.  Had I been Catholic, with a different impression of priests, and/or attended Catholic school and been a little scared of the nuns, I might have had a very different impression of that scene.  I think it can work in the context of works of fiction, with some background.  Religion mixed with spanking can be like the titanium skin of the super-secret space shuttles in the movie Armageddon.  

Okay, so that last sentence needs some explanation... fair enough.  In the lexicon of business consultants, "we'll unpack it."  Let's face it, in everyday life spankings don't normally occur outside the realm of special relationships or in the bedroom. (Or, ahem, among people with this fetish actively seeking like-minded folks for play).  In any work of spanking fiction, or a video clip with a plot, one doesn't need to necessarily believe that the plot is likely to occur, one merely needs to believe in the plot just enough to suspend their disbelief that lots of spankings can occur outside of established spanking-relationships. Right?  Just like in a movie involving space shuttles navigating and then landing on an asteroid, sure it's bad science, but we're not talking about being factually correct, we're just talking about being entertained here, right?  One must suspend disbelief that the fragile space shuttles could survive with their crew intact to do such a thing.  How does the director/writer suspend the disbelief? By making it marginally plausible. 

"People know that space shuttles are fragile, how can I get them to believe that they might could navigate and land on an asteroid? I know, make them super-secret military shuttles covered in titanium skin!"   becomes... "Women don't get spanked in regular society, how can I make this believable?  I know, I'll set the story in a heavily religious background. What about on that compound of a religious cult? No one knows what goes on there, and we don't have preconceived notions about those religious leaders and associate them with lawsuits involving the abuse of little boys, right?  It could be a fertile ground for spanking fantasy worlds to be invented."

Surprisingly, I've found several examples of this, and the concept pretty much works.

A couple of posts back I mentioned Atonement, a novel by Rollin Hand and that was actually sort of my inspiration for this post.  It's about the infiltration of just such a religious cult that includes spankings.  I first read it years ago, and then read it again when I was a member of the excellent and full of promise, but sadly short-lived spanking couple website.  (If anyone knows the whereabouts of Veronica Daniels or "Coach" I'd love to hear from them too, or just tell them I'm a big fan.) Rollin recently published it on Amazon, and I'm assuming some changes and edits have been made since I read it, but I still recommend it highly.

There are more works of fiction that incorporate religion or religious cults as a catalyst for a spanking fantasy.  Among them:

The "Appointment for Contrition" series by Guy Spencer is maybe my favorite.

I've also become a fan of Smashwords - although the selection is relatively tiny, despite all my secret spanko skills I have yet to discover a good way of concealing EBooks purchased on Amazon from my Kindle app for IPhone.  (plus the "books" on Smashwords are usually free to $5.00 tops) Similar stories found on Smashwords include:

The Church of the Illuminated, Books 1, 2, and 3 (plus a guidebook) by Jennie May;
Ephraim's Wife (a polygamist tale) by Leah Kelley -I admit I haven't read this one, but looks promising.

So I feel like there is a place for mixing religion and spanking, even among those that don't take the religious aspect seriously, in that it's an element that can make spanking role play or reading or films more plausible.  However, I know it's a very touchy subject.  There are plenty of folks into spanking that do take their religion very seriously, and probably more than a few who, through previous encounters, are turned off by religious connotations in something they pursue as fun.  Still, it's a topic I haven't seen squarely addressed on the spanking blogs, and well, sometimes I like to stir the pot and am not shy about generating controversy.  Would love to hear my readers' thoughts on the matter.

Monday, December 3, 2012

news blooper re: spankings, "As a kid? No..."

I saw this awhile back and thought about posting it but was recently reminded of it in a "best local news bloopers of 2012" video. I won't make my readers sit through the whole thing and say wait for for it beginning at about the 4 minute mark or something... no, I did a search for it and found the isolated blooper. (There are about 5 versions on youtube, and it wasn't from this year, it was pre- "50 shades" era!)  Maybe another blog out there has already covered this story from a few years ago but I did a quick search for it and couldn't find anything.

I think the guy's a real jerk and am astounded at how unprofessional he is, but her reaction is well... cute.  And kind of hot!  Anyway... enjoy.
  

Thursday, November 29, 2012

gripping the sheets and the roller coaster ride

That moment when things escalate past what's mildly uncomfortable...

When things start to really heat up...

When you start to wonder, "Wait, why am I doing this?!"

When that thought is overwhelmed by an emotional response- This HURTS! GRRRR!

When this happens...
Okay so maybe she's not getting spanked, but you can imagine...
So... why is it that you're doing this?

I have a partial explanation.  Awhile back I wrote about breaking down the elements of a spanking and compared them to the ingredients of a hamburger.  I missed one. 

Once upon a time, I was a little kid who was just tall enough to ride the big roller coaster.  A little scared, hell a lot scared, I rode it anyway after some convincing. 
I held on to the rail just as tight as I could, and somehow survived.  When I got off, my mom asked me what I thought.  Still shell-shocked and wide-eyed, I said it was scary but I wanted to get in line again!  I was elated, and giddy, and amazed.  I was terrified, but I'd survived!

I think one of the elements of a spanking that can appeal to some is the same sort of scary wild ride followed by the elation and happiness and well, enjoying the comforting and aftercare.  Why else do people ride roller coasters? or watch scary movies? or watch tear-jerker movies?  To hang on tight- to the roller coaster rail, to the sheets, to their date, or to their Kleenex brand tissue- and have a wild experience and heightened emotions, but then the satisfaction that "I did it!" and they survived, and things are much better know.

Just something I was thinking about this week.  Curious if y'all agree or disagree, and what hamburger ingredient I should make this element of the appeal of spanking.

Monday, November 26, 2012

Can't Lieb her hangin'



Okay so my friend Spankcakes invited me to answer some questions.  It has something to do with a "Liebster award" but I'm not at all sure what the origin was, other than it's an excuse to ask and answer questions and come up with terrible puns as titles.  By the way, in looking for pics to go along with my terrible pun title, I got a little distracted and found this fetlife pic.  Sort of (but not literally) a friend of a friend stumble upon.  All I can say is wow! It's pretty amazing. 

So anyway, on to answering these questions... here goes:
1. What inspired your first step into the spanking world? Always interested... a few years ago stumbled onto an ad for spankfinder.com and was like "wow! this is for real! I could really do this!" and I did.
2. What scene defines your ultimate fantasy? Hard to pick just one.  I guess the top-of-her-class-schoolgirl-that-gets-sent-to-the-principal-for-the-1st-time-after-being-caught-on-senior-skip-day-just-so-she-can-have-the-experience-and-is-confronted-by-a-principal-who-admires-her-but-is-determined-to-give-her-the-full-experience one.  (is that one? if not it should be).  Hate to say it but I also get a secret thrill about the pure fantasies involving alternative societies or religions where spanking women is socially acceptable, like Rollin Hand's Atonement or the one about another medieval planet at Bethany's woodshed.
3. Do you enjoy spanking/being spanked anywhere other than a/your bottom? thighs and breasts too! 
4. How do you feel about tears and spanking? nice but rare, and not something I try to achieve- more like icing on the cake.
5. Does anything intimidate you? Spanking related or not? Blue collar men with calloused hands.  Just being honest.  I'm in decent shape and even used to play football, but sorry ladies, my hands are now soft and maybe have paper cuts.  I'm not a handyman and take my car to the shop instead of fixing it myself.
6. What gets your blood flowing? Spanking related or not? jogging, playing basketball, politics, college sports, cooking, moving boxes, working in the yard, and uhm... the female bottom.
7. Name three things off your bucket list. Wait "off" our bucket list, as in something that was on it but now is not? or as in pick three of the things on it?  I'll assume things that were on it and are now off, just because that more interesting... 1) swim in the Mediterranean (it was cold). 2) attend a state of the union address (it was crowded) 3) rescue a young lady on horseback. (her horse was spooked and she was a camper, not a lady, but still...) 
8. What is your favorite film? Favorite book? boring... Star Wars and Lonesome Dove
9. What will be written on your epitaph? It won't read "Marky Marks" I can assure you.
10. Marsha, Jan and Cindy... which one do you fuck, marry and kill? Though I sort of like these games...Dating myself... don't have an opinion here because don't know.  Will go with the oldest, just to be safe!
11. What would be your Groundhog's Day... a day to be lived over and over again?  Had a day like that last week before Thanksgiving.  Not going to get into it, and nothing spanking related... just a good day on several fronts- work, home, weather... I thought to myself that it was a good regular day and how I'm thankful for so much, even though I wasn't looking forward to celebrating the Thanksgiving holiday.

Thanks for asking.  Hope y'all enjoyed my answers.  Unfortunately, I have no idea who's been nominated and who hasn't been because lately I've been doing well to keep up with my own blog, much less others!  Feel free to leave suggestions in the comments or email me.




Thursday, November 22, 2012

Happy Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving has got to be the least sexy holiday of the year, right? I mean, you travel, you hang out with your family. (You can pick your friends, you can pick your nose, but you can't pick your family!)  You eat traditional dishes that are awfully bland to begin with, and you put on a smile and pretend like the food is great and you're enjoying yourself.  (And sneak a beer when my 90 year old grandmother isn't looking, because that's still a big no-no with her.) 

The guys pretend to care about the Detroit Lions game, but by the time the elaborate feast is ready, the Cowboys game (which some actually care about) has started, but we can't watch that because we're all enjoying this yummy bland food that's just like what our grandparents made, without any shred of MadMen glamour or fun.  And we get caught up on the illnesses and gossip in the family about our extended family.  Then we pretend to enjoy dessert, despite the fact that if anyone picked their favorite dessert, it would have some chocolate in it, but for some reason red meat and chocolate are forbidden from this supposedly indulgent holiday feast.   At least, that's what it's like for me. I have a jewish friend that said thanksgiving is like a jewish holiday- while quasi-religious, you eat traditional yet disgusting food and pretend to have fun with your extended family.  And sure, we're celebrating a year of being thankful based on the experiences of a group of religious radicals that helped to colonize a continent and were extraordinarily lucky not to have been slain by the native inhabitants. (Who "thankfully" had succumbed the year before to a disease spread through european rat urine.)

On the other hand, I have a great deal to be thankful for this year.  My life is finally settling down in several ways, and in good ways.  On a level that my readers care about, I'm recapturing this blog thing that was a great creative outlet for me that I feared was slipping away.  I miss y'all!  I'm also once again active in pursuing a spanking play-partner, something that I didn't have time for during the last few months.  For all of that, I'm grateful.  In fact, I'm, well... thankful. So, in gratitude here are some sexy thanksgiving images. (yes, they do exist.)
Ms. Monroe herself

Sexy pilgrim Halloween costume- on sale now!

this is actually me in costume.  call me "SquantoSpanko"
Bend over my lap, Prudence Lancaster.  I intend to spank you before I stuff your turkey!  (And no, I wouldn't dare dream of making a joke about the oil of fish improving the cornhole!)

Happy Thanksgiving y'all.  Enjoy it... as much as you can!

Tuesday, November 20, 2012

the coat hanger

Howdy folks.  I'm back.  Missed y'all.  I have a couple of interesting posts in store, but thought id start out by trying out a little story snippet.  It's not something i've done before, and there are several others who are really good at it, but thought I'd give it a shot.  It's a little dark, but hope y'all enjoy.

"The only thing that's off limits is a coat hanger.  My dad used to use that on me, and I just think it evil."

"I won't hit you with a coat hanger, I promise.  No worries there.  But you said you might like a little more than just a spanking.  A little bondage type action right?"

"uhm... yeah.  I kinda like feeling helpless, but trusting that I'm in good hands. So to speak.  I want someone to get into my head and rock my world, my mind and my body, but be safe.  Someone who knows my boundaries and pushes me.  Push me.  Does that make sense?"

"That's not really my forte, but I'll try to make it memorable for you.  I'll get a room at...."

A week later...


Whack!
"Oowwww! That one hurt bad!"

"Back into position sweetie.  Bend over."

Whack! You stand up again and do a little dance. Then you turn your head around and see my face. I don't look pleased.

"Sorry Mark, I can't help it. It hurts and it's just my natural reaction."

I grab your hair and your hands instinctively go up to your head, leaving your bottom uncovered once again.

Whack!

"Yeeouch!!"

I suppose it could be fun to spank you standing up.  I do like watching you dance.

Whack! "Oooo..."

"And didn't you say you wanted to call me Sir?"

Whack!

"yes... Sir."

"I know it can be hard to hold your position and I know that it hurts. It's supposed to. But let me see if I can help you out a little bit."

I walk over and open the drapes. We're high enough up that likely no one can see in, but you're still on edge as I lead you over to the window.  "Stay here. Hands on your head."

I fondle your breasts for a brief bit. "hmm..." before walking off to the small closet next to the hotel room door.

You hear me rustling about and I return carrying a coat hanger.

"you're not gonna hit me with THAT are you?"

"It's not your place to question me at this point, little one."

I set the hanger down on the little hotel desk/table and grab one of your breasts. Lifting it and enjoying its substantial weight before bringing my mouth to your nipple and sucking greedily, then flicking it with my tongue before sucking it again. I pick up the hanger and your eyes grow wide.

You notice that it's not a regular hanger but a skirt hanger. The kind that has 2 clips on the bottom. You gasp as you watch me squeeze one of the clips open and then again as it clamps down on your now engorged nipple.

Then I do the same to your other nipple. Taking my time and enjoying the sucking. You don't enjoy it quite as much because you know it has a purpose. After the hanger is firmly secured to both nipples, I lift the hanger up, and tug slightly. Then I do it again, smiling as I play with my new toy.


"this is sort of fun" ...you roll your eyes.

"I can lead you all around the room and you'll follow" with one finger on the curved hanger part I walk you in a circle around the room.

"but this wasn't JUST for fun. It should help you stay in position and help you take your spanking like a big girl. Here, I'll show you."

I lead you over to the dresser and pull down, causing you to bend over, and I hook the hanging end onto the handle drawer. I help you into position, your face to the side against the cool hard surface.

"Legs straight. Arch your back. That's it. Spread em a bit more. I love seeing that --mmm... One more thing."

I go over next to the bed and grab the long since discarded tie and return to bind your hand behind your back.

It's a lovely sight, and I can't help myself from playing with you a bit. Teasing your pussy and bottom. I want you still turned on. I run my cock between your cheeks and through your lips. Teasing,  I bend down on one knee and deliver some licks with my tongue instead of a paddle or belt. You moan and beg.

"Please..."

Still I tease. "Not yet sweetie. Not yet. You still have at least a dozen more with my belt. But this way, you won't be tempted to stand up again. If you do-"

I pull your hair up just a bit, and you gasp as it stretches your nipples painfully.

"-well, you won't."

"Now, let's make these fast so we can get onto the really fun parts, shall we?  Deep breath. Here they come..."



Tuesday, November 13, 2012

1st annual class reunion: In with the new: Trick and Treat edition

About a year ago I got my real start in the spanking blog community.  I was featured in one of Bonnie's "In with the new" reports of new spanking blogs.  I missed the "Bonnie appreciation day" but thought that this is one of the most important things Bonnie does for the spanking blogger community.  Making it onto one of these lists is almost like getting your spanking blogger license and thought that it would be fun to check in on my classmates and see how they're doing.  Below is a brief update on each.  I was surprised how many weren't around any more. Blogging is seemingly easy- not a great deal of technical know-how required- but it is kind of tough to stick with it.  Heck I've taken a break or two myself, and have noticed with sadness that a couple of blogs I liked are no longer around. Maybe it makes me appreciate those that have been doing this for years even more.

But back to the class reunion...

A man and his girl
Lots of personal pics on this wordpress blog, she seems to have quit posting in August, then posted a couple in June, and hasn't since then.

Aimless Ramblings
Seems to be a very frequent poster and still going strong.  Would add it to my blogroll, but as the title suggests, seems like much of it is not about spanking.  I'd never do something like that!  I bet she'd be fun to talk to.

Canerama
no longer active

CP Erotica
Tumblr blog no longer active

DD - A Road Less Traveled
only one post, from Aug. 2011

Diving in with Domestic Discipline
Blog has been removed

Faerie learns to fly
This blog has been going strong for awhile.  Have had it on my blogroll.  Seems like a genuinely amazing lady that's shared quite a bit of herself with her readers.

Fire breather dot me
Stopped posting in January 2012 in an especially depressing manner.  Hope she's alright.

Kendra's Red HOT Tales
Enjoyed this for it's brief history.  Was an especially spicy version of DD while it was active.  Last post was in Nov. 2011.

Kitty Tales
Two posts, the last one was in Oct. 2011.

Otto's Femdom Spanking Art (F/M)
Blog has been removed

Scarlott's Submissive Behaviours
A professional submissive in the U.K. Only a couple of posts a month, but she's still active.  Wish she were in America!

ME

The other Secret Spanko
Two posts, last of which was in Feb 2012.  I talk more about this here.

A submitted wife
Her husband got laid off in March, and after one post, then quit posting.  I feel for them.  Without him having a job and providing for you, I can bet that it's difficult to submit to your husband.  Sadly, this is occurring more and more in American society.  But that's probably a whole 'nother post.

The Blog of Fred
Funny, it was near the bottom of the list and never checked him out.  Seems to be a quite liberal chap in the UK.  Maybe I should start to check his blog out more often.

Veiled Obsessions
Have enjoyed watching her transformation this year in her relationship with her husband.  She's been on my blogroll for awhile.  She recently had twins (and she's kinda cute).


Saturday, November 10, 2012

You're not alone

I decided I'd pop my head back in and try to post a few words because I was inspired by something I read this week.  
No, nothing about that little thing we had this week called the election.
Not anything about Veteran's Day, or the aftermath of Hurricane Sandy, though I care a great deal about both. 
Not a secret spanko tip about email paranoia (If the director of the CIA can be brought down by his activities on Gmail, what hope do secret spankos have of keeping this a secret?) 
No, not even Love Our Lurkers Day -though I hate that I completely missed it!
I was inspired to write something about an article in the New York Times written by a woman who revealed the fact that she had a spanking fetish- not just to her boyfriend, but to the world.  I have this phrase, "...you're not alone" up there as a part of the masthead of this blog, and I truly hope that some of the lurkers reading the blog at some point have come to realize that they're not alone.  Almost every writer of spanking blogs and almost every attendee at spanking parties is able to be open about their interest and desires involving spankings.  However, not everyone with a spanking fetish is living it out or has it fulfilled by their spouse or significant other.  If you're one of those who keeps this desire hidden and bottled up, and you read too many spanking blogs, you might think that you're alone in keeping this deep desire a secret.  One of my goals in starting the blog was to both give a voice to those secret spankos and assure them that, well, you're not alone. 
On the other hand, even those who are open about their spanking desires to their spouse or significant other still mostly keep it somewhat a secret.  There are exceptions, but most folks retain some level of anonymity.  Jillian Keenan, the author of that article, took things well beyond that.  She wrote about herself and used her own name in a widely read and respected publication.  I encourage my readers to read it.  She talks about having the interest from an early age, and parts of her story will no-doubt be very familiar to many other spankos out there.  To do so took huge, brass, uhm... ovaries tremendous courage, and I salute her for it.  In doing so, she reached far more readers than any spanking blogger could hope to attain, and probably assured far more spankos (whatever their level of personal secretness) that, well, they're not alone. 
Thank you, Jillian Keenan.

Friday, November 2, 2012

Still here- sort of.

Hi y'all. I'm still here.  Work is still nuts and I don't have a lot of free time, much less regular access to the Internet for naughty purposes. Not only that, but iPhones, while relatively good at consuming Internet content are not that great at helping one produce content. (so no illustrations) but maybe I'm just not good at figuring it out yet. I miss all my blogger friends. A belated note of appreciation to Bonnie for all she does for the spanking blogger community.

Hope all my readers are doing well. Thoughts go out to those affected by Sandy.

One more note- please vote. If you don't you shouldn't be able to bitch about politics for 4 more years.

Hope to be back and blogging regularly by Thanksgiving.

Friday, October 12, 2012

Just a heads up...

Going through a crazy busy time in my real life right now.  Not bad, but good...  At least, it will be in the long run (hopefully).  But it's stressful and time consuming and by the time the family has gone to sleep and I have those rare moments to myself... I'm beat and just want to veg.

Or watch the previously recorded presidential debates and yell at the TV about what each candidate should have said.  (Biden couldn't say, when  responding to the question about Iran, "well, our guys wrote the code for malicious software that the Israeli's infected their nuclear labs with that set them back several years!" because, well, we still haven't officially admitted anything.  But he sure as shit could've practiced a better closing statement like Ryan did, or responded to something about running out of time with a quip about how it's hard to tell time in an endurance race.)  Of course, my disdain for Ryan is probably directly proportional to the the fact that my wife thinks he's "cute" and swooned when he talked about the little bean.  We did that too, buddy.  His name was "pinto" for us.

But I'm still around.  And will return with a lot of pent-up thoughts about spanking.  Just give me a week or three.  Please forgive my lack of posts and/or returning emails.

Thursday, October 4, 2012

Birthday spankings should be in your birthday suit!

I mean, that's what a birthday spanking is all about, right?  Commemorating when the doctor spanked you on the day you were born to make sure you could cry, or get the gunk out of your mouth, or whatever.  Just seems natural (and more fun) to take a birthday spanking in your birthday suit.  I was thinking about that recently.  No, it's not even close to my birthday.  I did recently enjoy Erica's account of her birthday spanking.  But that (and her abundance of clothes in the birthday spanking pic) wasn't the impetus for this post either.  Actually, I've been working on a story that involves a birthday spanking, of sorts.  Let me tell you... I have tremendous respect for spanking fiction writers.  Feel free to check out thespankinglibray for lots and lots of great stories.  (Giving them another plug because I STILL haven't finished something for Wellred Weekly! I'll try to put my other stories up on that site in the near future.) Writing stories is so much harder and more time consuming than regular blog posts- at least for me.  I'd hoped to have it done this week, but it's not.  So I thought I'd at least mention it and post some cool pictures of what I like to imagine are birthday spankings taken in the spankee's birthday suit.  Not only that, but here's another story from Literotica about a couple of twins getting a birthday spanking. (It's given by their dad, if that makes it squicky for some)
 "But Sarah, that's way more than 22!"
"Uhm... Did you forget that I got a copy of your drivers license for 2257 compliance before this shoot?"
 "That's it... All the way over.  Hold on tight."
via thespankingblog.com
"Ooooh... I thought she was joking! She's really getting a birthday spanking!  I'll just tip-toe right out of here and pretend I never saw anything!"

Anyway, another story hopefully early next week.

Friday, September 28, 2012

Don't clench

Whack, whack, whack, whack!

"Don't clench.  Relax your cheeks." 

"But it hurts!"

"I know it does, and clenching up your cheeks (whack!) Is not going to prevent it, (whack whack) -it's just going to make it bruise more. You're fighting it. Not accepting it.  And that (whack!) Is not (whack!) What we're going for now, is it?"

"Aaaaa! No."  (Whack!) 

"Maybe I should just (smack) spank your thighs until you unclench your bottom."

"Nooo!"

"Let's try that again...No what? (Whack!) 

"No sir..."

"There we go.  That's better.  If you need to squeeze something, here- take my hand.  Now, where were we?  Oh yeah... (Splat!) We still have a ways to go.  Hang on."

(Splat!)
from herwoodshed.com

No, not those red clenched ass-cheeks
That's more what I meant 


I'm not sure why, but instructing the spankee not to clench can be a hot trigger for me.  I've heard that clenched cheeks lead to more bruising, but certainly haven't conducted any experiments to prove it.  I doubt that there's a big difference in how much it hurts one way or another.  Maybe it's that relaxing the cheeks is an act of submission.  Maybe it's the acceptance of the spanking it signifies, or it's an acknowledgement of vulnerability.  Maybe the "splat" of hand against relaxed cheeks just sounds better than the "smack" of flexed cheeks.  Then again, maybe it just doesn't hurt my hand as much!  

Here's a picture of my ass cheeks clenched...
Okay, so maybe not.