Thursday, January 10, 2013


The other day I was on fetlife and read a comment about how "...Blah, blah, blah, it's just butthurt spanking content providers that say that."  It made me chuckle at the unintended irony.

Butthurt is an internet word. It's sort of an internet meme. (That link provides a far better explanation than mine, and actually credits the origin of the word to the reaction after a spanking.)

The Urban Dictionary defines butthurt as:

"An inappropriately strong negative emotional response from a perceived personal insult. Characterized by strong feelings of shame. Frequently associated with a cessation of communication and overt hostility towards the 'aggressor.'"

or, more succinctly: 

"Getting your feelings hurt, being offended or getting all bent out of shape because of something petty or stupid."

Perhaps it's fitting that I post this topic as the college football season is now, uhm, behind us. Longtime readers know I'm a big fan of college football.  "Butthurt" first entered my personal lexicon when it was used extensively on college football message boards a few years ago.    College football message boards are perhaps the only place where boring older professionals regularly interact with younger, far more internet meme-attuned actual college students.  The term "butthurt" gets used a lot on those forums, particularly regarding conference realignment. For example:

"There are a bunch of reasons Nebraska left the Big XII for the B1G, but their butthurt after the questionable clock and 1 second loss to Texas in that last championship game might have been the catalyst."

"Mizzou is a terrible fit in the SEC, and a much better fit for the B1G than Rutgers, but they wouldn't dream of changing now out of pride and butthurt from getting rejected a couple of years ago."

These are very polite examples I came up with just now. In reality message board material was more along the lines of... "You think the fAggies are butthurt now? Just wait until the a$$ pounding they'll take next year!" (note dollar signs used to still communicate but get around profanity filters; further note that this didn't exactly happen this season with the football team, but sometimes, it happens.  oh yeah, it does.)  

I can't overemphasize the number of times I saw "butthurt" used in the posts talking about conference realignment. The funny thing was- it really fit! Universities (or their boards) were indeed acting in ways that made you think their actions were motivated by, well, butthurt.  I think the beginning of this particular Internet meme coinciding with the realignment talks which created a situation where the phrase (or word) was used by just about every poster on those boards. I'll never forget that summer hearing a professional use "butthurt" correctly in a business context. I chuckled at that too and someone else said "I think you've been reading too much ____ (the name of his school's message board) and conference talk!" And just about every guy there laughed because we all knew exactly what he meant.

Anyway, while the term is applied easily while talking about college football, one might should refrain from using "butthurt" when talking about the spanking industry.   


  1. I'll have no problem refraining from using it; I can't STAND that expression. It's stupid and obnoxious. And whoever coined it deserves an anvil-on-the-foot hurt.

    1. Now, now Erica... The English language has more words than any other, but there are still some emotions for which a word doesn't exist.
      In this case, the internet stepped in to create one. I don't have a problem with the word itself, just that one might should think twice before using it in the context of anything spanking related.

  2. I've never heard that expression before, but will ask my husband - a football fan - if he has.


    1. I have a feeling Canadian universities are far too sensible to act "butthurt" when it comes to football.

  3. I don't find it at all offensive in my world. Isn't that the whole point?

    Butthurt, echo of butthurt, tresured marks from butthurt?

    May have misread. Never mind.

    (So want you to hurt my butt. Never mind.)

    1. "echo of butthurt" - I like that. When you're in the car and can still feel it. someday I hope so sweetie.