Sunday, November 24, 2013

beavers and ducks and dogs and bears

I admit that I'm a huge fan of college football.  One of my early posts reviewing a spanking video paysite compared that site to an eventual heisman trophy winner.  I've even compared college football coaching trees to spanking blogger trees. I realize that's maybe an odd combination, and no, this post isn't a commentary about college football, though one would be justified in thinking so from the title of this post.  Instead it's about coming back to the realm of spanking blogs, and discovering that a bit has changed since I've taken a look around.
It appears that the end of the world as we know it- the changes to blogspot which I poo-pooed at the time have claimed a few victims. Gone is the blogspot blog called guesshermuff, where you see a picture of an attractive fully dressed woman and are supposed to guess the state of her muff before clicking on the answer, which is, of course- a picture revealing her, uhm... beaver. I admit I liked it, and am sad to see it go... oh wait, it's back! I need to update my blog roll, but not sure that in the new format their updates will be on my blog roll.
Meanwhile, I checked out my stats page and was confused to see so many page referrals from something called What is this, some new spammer or a site from Russia or something? Actually I was pleasantly surprised- it's an anonymous search page. And I think after reading a little about it that it might be handy for those who are secret spankos.  I've warned before about how google and facebook are both smarter than we realize and those ads popping up on searches are no accident. Until I learn otherwise, I'm happy that so many have found me using duckduckgo - it proves that there are other secret spankos out there, that some are more with it than even I am when it comes to anonymity, and that we are not alone!

If I were extremely benevolent, this is where I'd pitch charities supporting abandoned animals like Cause for Paws supported by Amber Pixie Wells and Dana Kane.  I'm not that benevolent, but I'll at least give them a link for a worthy cause. On the charitable giving scale I figure that those are closer to homeless shelters and work with Africa than giving to the performing arts and college athletics realm of the spectrum. (plus not many other charities allow one to supplement their giving with a custom spanking video clip!)

Instead I was going to mention another gem I found in perusing my stats... a French spanking blog has linked to one of my old posts about the mix of emotions involved when you're the trusted phone call when a spanko friend goes to play with someone new for the 1st time. I think that topic is ripe for several new posts, given my recent real life history of introducing spanking newbies who move on to spanking relationships, but I'll save that idea for later, for now. I'm impressed and flattered because it's not even a fairly recent post of mine - i.e., the author has read more than the 1st page and what's been chrossed! I should be even more flattered that she compared me to a St. Bernard.  Instead I'd like to point out that as a French spanking blog, I think it would have been more appropriate to compare that role not to a St. Bernard, but to a French/Spanish Great Pyrenees. The ultimate white knight of dog breeds, they're more guard dogs than rescue dogs, are mistrustful, independent yet fiercely loyal, roam widely and difficult to train but fearless. Plus they don't slobber, and based on the pics below always hang out with attractive ladies!
mmmhmm right there. there ya' go! Merci!
What are you looking at there buddy? nope- get that long tongue back in your mouth!
True story- growing up in west Texas I'd heard of this breed. Despite suffering in the summer from their thick coat, some ranchers were using them because they killed more coyotes than other breeds.

With a recent personal tragedy, which contributed, but is not completely responsible for, my recent lack of posts...I reached out to some old facebook friends of a family member. One of them was particularly helpful in locating long lost high school friends, etc... I sent him a friend request. Turns "out" that he's a leader in a local group of "bears" - a term for gay manly men that eschew stereotypical gay male tendencies- on facebook. Which sort of amuses me... I learn something new, gain some insight and appreciation for him, and see some very different advertisements.  I just hope no one hacks my real life facebook account and gets the wrong idea! 

Friday, November 22, 2013

Bratting from the Top?

So probably every spanko has heard of "topping from the bottom" right?  I don't necessarily think it's a bad thing, in most contexts, though it's often brought up as someone "accused" of topping from the bottom. The few times I've switched, for the most part I've unashamedly topped from the bottom. I knew what I wanted to experience and was there to experience it, dammit.   But what about the reverse? I looked up "bottoming from the top" and came up with lots of articles and blog posts like this one, for example, about "service tops" who act dominant just to make the bottom happy, and truthfully, there's a kernel of truth there. I talk to my new potential spankees about my hamburger spanking analogy and ask if they could go to a spanking burger king and order one their way what they would order.  Not going to lie- a great deal of my enjoyment of a spanking comes in making the bottom happy and fulfilling her fantasy.  On the other hand, it seems some have viewed "bottoming from the top" as almost a dereliction of duty- as when the top is lazy just spanks when the bottom wants it, not when she needs it, and that's a bad thing.

But... what if the top just wants to have a little bit of fun with the scene? It's certainly not a dereliction of duties as a top, and almost the antithesis of a service top... having fun whilst giving a spanking, and maybe rubbing it in a little. I hereby christen this practice with the name : Bratting from the Top.
I love seeing a smiling spanker enjoying themself.
Go ahead, do a Google search on "bratting from the top" and you'll get 8 total results which largely consist of a discussion from 2005 on an obscure message board, where they struggle with the concept, along with a clip that I can't access from some place called the kink academy, which features all sorts of topics that probably don't really appeal to spankos. Finally Cassandra Sparks mentions the phrase in passing in a post that probably accurately describes my thoughts. But that's it.

Let me help to refine the definition by giving examples...
--a post-spanking comforting hug, interrupted by a well placed pinch on a spot of her bottom that I know is sore, accompanied by a wink and maybe even a kiss.
--asking her to fetch an implement knowing full well that it's her least favorite. "I think it's time for the ___ don't you?" and thanking her for retrieving it.
Here's another example from of the stories I wrote, based on an actual scene. Ostensibly I was teaching a lesson about compliance, but really, I just wanted to see boobies. (duh.)
"Up you go sweetie." 
You stand in front of me and notice sweat on my brow again, and I'm smiling.  Nervously standing there you awkwardly cover your little neatly trimmed thatch of pubic hair with your hand.

"Oh no you don't- you remember what I said about covering up with your hand?"You jerk your hand away uncovering yourself to my direct gaze. 

"I thought you said you understood that 'When you cover up you get more.'"

"Yes sir."

"And when you covered up to prevent the spanking you got more what?" 

"More swats sir."

"And so when you cover up to prevent embarrassment what do you think you're gonna get?"

"Uhm... more embarrassment sir?"

"That's right. Lets get those jeans all the way off." You awkwardly comply.

"And now the shirt." Your eyes grow wide. "Yes." Slowly you take the shirt over your head. 

"And it seems silly to be dressed in just a bra. Lets get that off too. Besides, I'd like to see those girls wobble about during this next part." 

"The next part?!" You think as you uncover your other curves. Your nipples are little pebbles standing proudly on top of the generous mounds. 

"Hands behind your head sweetie." 
You comply. I step forward and caress first your stomach and then slowly up your chest until I'm cupping them and teasing them. Another hand drifts down and confirms how much you like it.

Let's be honest- for a true spanko top, spanking a cute bottom laying across your lap or even bent over is an enjoyable experience. You might as well have fun and uhm... enjoy it. (even at the expense of a little added pain and embarrassment of your spanko bottom!)

I first noticed Dana Kane through her product testing videos, where she was clearly enjoying herself.  I'd be remiss in failing to acknowledge her influence on my spanking style.  Though it can vary, I think at times she can enjoy some "bratting from the Top" style spanking as well. And an extra tip of the hat to her for a recent post about how so often real life gets in the way of spanking, but when it's something we enjoy and a stress relief, that could be the exact opposite of what we need. With that in mind, I'll try to post more frequently. I'd love to hear others thoughts on my "Bratting from the Top" idea though.

Thursday, November 14, 2013

dangit! missed LOL day again.

I know there are more than a few lurkers who read my blog, and I promise I'll get back to the essence of being a secret spanko again here really soon. I appreciate all my readers, and hope to provide y'all with something worth reading. I've been busy this fall, and confess that far too much of my house quiet alone time with the internet has been focused on college football instead of spanking! Miss y'all.