Tuesday, April 22, 2014

new comments on old posts are pretty cool

My most popular post ever was one about how the 1st post of a spanking blog is often pretty cool, and why that's the case. If you haven't read it. the link is to your left, unless you're reading this in the mobile version, so here it is, just in case. Recently I was called out by a friend because I've been remiss in responding or replying to comments on my blog.  Guilty.

So I went through and tried to reply to several older comments, went through my "comments awaiting approval" folder and discovered that new comments on old posts are pretty cool.  For whatever reason, blogger is set up so that comments on older posts are marked as spam or as needing moderation before approval. Fair enough- I just hadn't checked those folders in awhile, and found some good stuff.

Some are sort of mundane. "Nice story." by anonymous in late 2013 on a post from early 2012. And I've dealt with old comments before- I posted something on problems with spanking social sites back in April 2012 that has had ongoing comments for over a year.  But I recently took another look at old comments and some are more fun.

  • An anonymous commentor* wrote about his red-headed wife who tried but is not into spanking. (post was from Jan. 2013, comment in Feb 2014)
  • An anonymous professor wrote about sorority girls visiting his office in a comment dated Aug. 2013 on a post from April 2012.
  • A couple of comments from Don't Clench (posted Sept 2012) dating up to more than a year later.

There are some I don't quite know how to respond to, like the anonymous comment on my post titled "vulnerability" from Sept. 2012. Someone (anonymous) posted something (kinda creepy) a month and a half later about taking off a woman's bra to make her feel vulnerable, and then someone commented, in June 2013 "JUST FUCK OFF & GO TO HELL, STUPID MOTHERFUCKERS !!!"  Really. okay... I guess it's not spam, since it didn't have a website at the end of the comment. If you take the time to type it, and I don't think it's spam, I'll okay it, even if I disagree.

Perhaps the most fascinating of the old comments I came across were those related to my interview of Betty Blaze. It was posted back in Dec. 2012.  Some anonymous commentor at the time wished I'd asked her about being spanked growing up. I didn't ask that because I think it's creepy to ask that, but I responded that I figured that had been asked and answered as a part of the punishment profiles for realspankings.com. More than a year later, I was more forthcoming about how I thought that question being asked of the spanking models was creepy. Within a couple of weeks, there was a comment on the old Betty Blaze interview: "No, Betty was not asked that question in her Punishment Profile. In fact, in the early punishment profile, they never asked if the girls were spanked growing up.
Please ask her."
I guess people really are interested in the (IMHO creepy) answers to that question, but on the other hand- they are actually paying attention to what I write.

Perhaps the best gem I discovered was a response to a post entitled "Another real life sorority spanking" from July 2013.  It was a story involving a sorority at NC State, and I included some pictures I found of NC State cheerleaders and sorority pledges.  Bless his heart, recently Charles Kret in Massachusetts read that entry and tried to post about five comments that he was willing to give or receive spankings to/from females in the area. Apparently he was frustrated by the need for moderation of comments on old posts, so he tried several times posting the same or similar comment. I decided I'd "publish" a couple of them. So if you're in Massachusetts and you're a female and into giving or receiving spankings please look up Charles Kret. I've looked for him on fetlife and would invite him to be my friend to help him out but no luck so far.

To all of you that are bloggers reading this, I ask you to take another look at your spam folders or comments to be moderated - you might find something amusing.

*Why does spell-check not accept "commentor" or "commenter" but will accept "commentator" which I think of as a talking head on a news program?

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Omphaloskepsis

It's a fancy word for navel gazing. What is navel gazing? It's the activity of thinking too much or too deeply about yourself, your experiences, your feelings, etc... excessive introspection. I've been doing some navel gazing lately, both literally and figuratively.

Literally- not too long ago, I had my appendix removed. Through my navel.  See, they now take it out laparoscopically through tiny incisions in your navel and beneath the pubic hair line, so the tiny scars don't show. I've had better days than that day, obviously, but overall I can't complain too much about the experience. It wasn't a pleasant couple of days before it got bad enough that I searched symptoms on my phone and with a sinking feeling knew what was wrong.  The ER was surprisingly quick and relatively painless. The kinda cute female ER doc lifted up my gown and checked to make sure it wasn't torsion, but I wasn't in a state to enjoy it. Don't remember much after that. I was relieved I didn't say anything too inappropriate to the obviously gay nurse in my drugged-up state.  Some itchy bandages and walking around taking little steps like an old man for a week or so...  There were several follow up doctor visits which I'm convinced were just a chance for the doctors to get more insurance money- Sit in a waiting room 30-45 minutes, finally go back, lift up my shirt, poke around, "Yep, seem to be healing just fine!" $$ Ca - Ching!

Each time I was overly concerned about belly button lint. I'm a fairly hairy guy, and combine a hairy belly with a worn-out cotton undershirt and you get belly button lint. I made sure I cleared it before hand.

However I've done some serious figurative navel gazing even more recently. Not too long ago a great spanking romance author interviewed me, and I was somewhat surprised by the response.  Bless their hearts, there are a lot of ladies who read spanking romance novels. Most of the emails I get from this blog, since starting it, have been very supportive and affirming.  I've met a few ladies who wanted a spanking directly from responding to this blog. Many more emails have been from other "secret spankos" who are in a relationship with a vanilla spouse or significant other, and are relieved that they're not the only one out there like that. I love those, and that's part of why I decided to start this blog.

At the very top of this blog it says "There are eighty-bajillion spanking blogs out there, and 99% are written by someone who is "out" as a spanko, at the very least to their spouse/partner/significant other... this one is about someone who is not out but is a spanko in secret. For those who love their vanilla spouse/partner/significant other but still have that secret attraction to spanking... you're not alone."

Despite that masthead, of sorts, following the Natasha Knight interview I got a couple of emails from ladies who read spanking romance novels that said basically (paraphrasing here) "I really liked your blog and then I realized, OMG how could you do that to your wife?!!"

And so began quite a bit of self reflection/questioning/navel-gazing.  As I've said before, it's an issue I struggle with. I rationalize: different people are wired differently sexually. I'm turned on by spanking. Despite attempts, she's clearly not. I don't want to attempt to shove a square peg into a round hole. As one of these ladies pointed out, here are plenty of anecdotal examples of married men leaving their family because try as they might to maintain a facade, they're gay. Both she and I have seen second hand the pain that can cause. If I were stuck in prison, no amount of coercion or seduction or effort or pressure could cause me to be aroused at gay sex. It's just not the way I'm wired. Similarly, no amount of trying can get my wife aroused from spanking, and I certainly won't force it.  So I seek outlets, and part of that is writing this blog where folks similarly situated can know that they're not alone, even if they're reticent about making their presence known on the internet.

So I'm not going to quit blogging, and I'm not going to cease spanking women who want to be spanked (even/especially women married to a vanilla spouse).  Yes, it's risky, but I'm a grown man and like to think I know what I'm doing.

If you've made it this far, you deserve some sexy pictures of belly buttons, right? As a spanko, all too often the belly button is hidden from view.


mine looks more like this:
okay, so maybe not... missing hair and an appendectomy scar!