Friday, June 5, 2015

trying out whiplr -social media app to become your new spankdar?

Awhile back I wrote something about a spankdar vs. a gaydar- how you could tell if someone was gay, but I made the argument it was probably impossible to have an effective spankdar. 

It's actually one of my favorite posts, especially because of the illustration.  I always try to find some image to illustrate the post, but there's not much out there to illustrate a "spankdar", so I took an image of a radar and used MSPaint to modify it.

For those of you too lazy to click on it and read it, here a brief summary: A gaydar is real and is scientifically proven- many people can pick out those that are gay or lesbian at a rate better than chance based not just on stereotypes but on appearance and the way someone walks.  On the other hand, I argued that it's not likely for someone to develop a similar "spankdar" because A) It's less socially acceptable than homosexuality- Folks that are into spanking are not likely to talk about it or even hint about it in public; and B) Often (but not always!) one's hidden secret desires are a counterbalance to their public persona, e.g., the high powered CEO that seeks out a domme and relishes relinquishing control, the sweet lady at work who take out her pent up aggression, or the low level IT guy that secretly has a harem of collared slaves.  On the other hand, stereotypes become stereotypes for a reason- because they're often true- maybe the sweet lady in the office is truly submissive, and the handsome CEO is conservative, old-fashioned, and going to take his wife in hand.  I argued that it's pretty much impossible to tell from any outside indication whether someone is interested in spanking, much less whether they are more submissive or dominant behind closed doors.

But social media is an amazing thing.  There's a younger single guy in the office who showed me all about tindr. It's an app on your phone where you can look up people near to where you are, check out their pictures, what they say, and indicate whether you might be interested in them or not. You swipe one way if you like them, swipe another way when rejecting them.  It eliminates having to talk to people at bars or cheesy pick up lines, just start chatting on your phone with some who was a "match"  because you both indicated you liked the tindr profile of the other.  

Hmm... could something like this work as form of  identifying fellow spankos? Maybe. Wow! that would be really awesome! 

Unfortunately, I tried out the latest attempt at this sort of thing and sadly, for now, the answer is still No.

There's an app that's a sorta kinda BDSM version of tindr, It's called "whiplr" and it doesn't work (at least I cant see it working) for finding potential play partners, disciplinarians, long term relationships involving those who are into spanking, etc...

Here's why:
A) there's nothing about spanking on it. The closest it comes is an interest in "impact play"
B) measurements are in metric units. As an American, it's hard to tell how close someone is when the distance to you is in kilometers, and it's hard to tell if someone is attractive when their weight is listed in kilograms, and their height in centimeters.
C) there are cheesy animated flirts or something you can send of a ruler or belt, but apparently you have to pay to send some other illustration to your message.
D) the app look like it has a drop of blood on it, not appealing to most spankos.
E) and most important- click on the link to their homepage- see how it's full of a mixture of attractive women and men? (And at the center is some guy named "MrCGrey") well, that's obviously what they're shooting for, but after trying it out for a whole day, this is what I get when I logged on:
Yup, about 20 guys and no women. Sigh. Yes, maybe someday there will be a social network or app that helps spankos self-identify to other spankos.  Unfortunately, we're not there yet.


  1. Hmm, interesting. I think so many spankos are closeted, maybe that lends to the lack of a social network...

    1. I think that has something to do with it, but still holding out hope for a secret spanko app that allows spankos to identify others with similar interests but is somehow opaque to those not into spanking.