Monday, March 28, 2016
should spankos enjoy a video of a HS paddling from a principal?
My last post was about a youtube video that showed (from behind a closed door) a three-swat paddling of a high school senior by her principal. I'm not going to lie, when I first saw it it got my spanking interests piqued. I recounted my recollection of paddlings in school, each of which registered in my spank brain. But, upon reflection, the more I thought about it the more conflicted about it I felt.
On the one hand, "Nancy" is a HS senior, presumably 18 years old, who volunteered for a paddling to get her out of a half day of detention. She walked out smiling. It didn't seem traumatic. I also presume that she agreed to the recording of this paddling in a release to appear on the show. (This past weekend we visited a church with the in-laws and they wanted to take pictures- I guess our kids and their cousins were cute all dressed up or something, because we were approached by someone asking if we would sign a release so that they could appear on the church's social media. Seriously?)
On the other hand, "Nancy" the senior was paddled by a school official in a real-life instance of corporal punishment. She only kinda-sorta volunteered. I'm against real-life corporal punishment of children, especially older children. I recall a few years ago there was a video that was posted on youtube of an East Texas judge who spanked his HS aged daughter with a belt, and my reaction to it was revulsion and a triggering of unpleasant personal memories. I thought, not for the first time, about Jillian Keenan* and her courageous/infamous article about how spanking is sexual and should not be used on children. I thought about William Saletan, another writer for Slate** with whom I've disagreed with in the past, and his courageous article about growing up and being paddled in school in East Texas (and receiving swats as an alternative to detention, just like "Nancy" in the video). Though I hesitated to make any reference to "Shades of Grey" in reference to spanking, I mentioned spanking the hand of a toddler who can't comprehend the danger of walking out into the street or sticking something in the electrical outlet as not fitting into the black/white dichotomy of spanking should be for consenting adults, not children. I called it off-white/dark charcoal gray. I think it might lead to discussion, and I don't think "Nancy" was traumatized, so I'll leave the link in my last post up, but I'm still not entirely comfortable with it.
*As a total aside, I probably have a bit of a crush on Jillian Keenan. She's smart, cute, and into spanking. Here's a fascinating podcast of her talking about her new book. (I totally have that scene from Dead Poet's Society etched in my brain as well! and yes there seems to be a predominance of verbal spankos -well, and nurses!) And if you (as a spanking blog reader) think she has tough skin after her articles on spanking in Slate and the NYT, my bet is that pales in comparison to the backlash she got for advocating the legalization of plural marriage after it was picked up by Rush Limbaugh. I'm probably more conservative than most spanking bloggers yet I agree with her. The government should acknowledge marriage not determine it. My wife and I got married in another country, and because of a mix-up in paperwork, were not technically married for months after we thought we were. That didn't change anything, and shouldn't have, as far as I'm concerned.
**Yes, Slate is the spankiest of "thought leader" internet magazines, as I have mentioned a time or two before. They like to write about spanking and I hope they continue to do so. I bet their editorial meetings on the subject are interesting. I just hope they don't mention that someone like me picked up on that fact!
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